When we look at life all of us hold a worldview, a perspective of the world and what it is. Our world view informs and sometimes tends to distort our perspective, we overlook facts that disprove it and note facts that support it. We tend to guard our world view as though it were a sacred text. However, our world view is not always based upon facts, and in extreme cases it is not even based on reality.  The purpose of this page is to assist the reader in developing a more accurate world view as it pertains to children and families, and, to aid in the process of informing the public to the end that our laws are just and fair.

There are various sources which expose the myths regarding children, families, fathers, and mothers with well substantiated facts and statistics. The US Surgeon General website is an excellent resource for mental health statistics. Additionally, there are the peer reviewed articles cited in this website that provide significant findings. Another revealing document, posted several years ago, summarized numerous key facts and deconstructed myths with great accuracy and supporting research. That document, a letter to PBS regarding its “documentary,” Breaking the Silence, is posted below for the readers’ edification. At the end of the letter to PBS there are numerous sources cited that are worth reading and for use as launching points for further research.

With that said . . .

20 Organizations and Authorities Blast PBS on “Breaking the Silence”
MensNewsDaily.com | November 06, 2005 | Stephen Baskerville, et al.

Originally posted on 07 November 2005 15:12:31 by Roger F. Gay

MND EXCLUSIVE

The following is an *exclusive* advanced copy of a letter sent to Pat Mitchell, the President and CEO of PBS. The letter, signed by 20 interested individuals and organizations, confronts PBS on its recent broadcast of “Breaking the Silence.”

November 2, 2005

Pat Mitchell
President & Chief Executive Officer
Public Broadcasting Service
1320 Braddock Place
Alexandria, VA 22314

Dear Ms. Mitchell:

PBS at one time enjoyed a well-deserved reputation for accurate and high-quality documentary programming. It is therefore not only sad but shocking to see a respected media outlet lower itself and journalistic standards with “Breaking the Silence: Children’s Stories.”

This spectacle is not disinterested journalism but closer to ideologically driven propaganda. To disseminate falsehoods against American citizens who have no platform to speak in their own defense is, frankly, beyond belief. Despite vilifying these fathers, no hard evidence is ever presented to prove the crimes of which they are accused on national television. Using the mass media to target defenseless groups and divide children from their parents is a practice familiar from the most hideous of dictatorial regimes. At a time when the American media is already on the defensive over questionable ethics, PBS, far from restoring the public’s faith in journalistic integrity, has descended further into the depths of irresponsible journalism.

Beyond the personal attacks are the larger untruths throughout the film. There is no scientific basis for any of the major assertions in this film. For example:

“All over America, battered mothers are losing custody of their children.”

“One third of mothers lose custody to abusive husbands.”

No evidence is cited for these statements, and they are not true. Though parents of both genders do lose custody unjustly, it is overwhelmingly fathers, not mothers, who are routinely stripped of custody of their children with no finding of wrongdoing:

A study published in the peer-reviewed journal Future of Children estimated that 85-90% of custody awards go to mothers.

Although patterns may vary from state to state,” concludes a study from the New York University School of Law, “it appears that, over all, mothers obtain sole physical custody ten times more often than fathers.”

A study in Arlington, Virginia, found that over an eighteen-month period maternal custody was awarded in 100% of decisions.

A study of four states, published in the Journal of Divorce and Remarriage, found a clear preference among judges for maternal custody.

Sanford Braver of Arizona State University surveyed litigants: “Not a single father thought that the system favored them in the slightest, and three-fourths thought it favored mothers,” he concluded. “And mothers tended to agree that the system was slanted in their favor.”

Had PBS done a thorough and balanced investigation of the family courts, rather than resorting to gender invective, they would have discovered the larger problem of systemic corruption that deprives children of both mothers and fathers and sometimes both.

“Batterers are twice as likely to contest as non-batterers. And they often win sole or joint custody.”

“75% of cases in which fathers contest custody, fathers have history of being batterers.”

Again, no evidence is cited, and no such evidence exists. Fathers are not the exclusive or even the main perpetrators of domestic violence. Again, a balanced and thorough treatment would have found that both genders are responsible for domestic violence:
 

Martin S. Fiebert has compiled a bibliography of studies published in the peer-reviewed journal, Sexuality and Culture that demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive against their partners as men.

Recent studies include those by John Archer and Murray Straus.

According to Mother Jones magazine: “Women report using violence in their relationships more often than men

“Women are doing the battering,” writes feminist Betty Friedan, “as much or more than men.”

Philip W. Cook has documented this extensively in Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence.

“Children are most often in danger from the father.”

This may be the most provocative and irresponsible statement of all. Yet again, no evidence is presented, and in this case the precise opposite is true. The vast preponderance of child abuse is committed by single mothers, not fathers. A father’s presence reduces child abuse:
 

The Department of Health and Human Services found that women aged twenty to forty-nine are almost twice as likely as men to be perpetrators of child maltreatment: “Almost two-thirds were females,” their report states. Most male perpetrators were not fathers.

The Third National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect from the Department of Health and Human Services found that “women (the majority of whom are natural mothers) murder children 31.6 times more often than do natural fathers.”

“Contrary to public perception,” write researchers Patrick Fagan and Dorothy Hanks of the Heritage Foundation, “research shows that the most likely physical abuser of a young child will be that child’s mother, not a male in the household.”

A study published by London’s Family Education Trust found children are up to 33 times more likely to be abused in a single-mother home than in a home with a father present.

“The presence of the father…placed the child at lesser risk for child sexual abuse,” a study in the refereed journal Adolescent and Family Health concluded.

“The protective effect from the father’s presence in most households was sufficiently strong to offset the risk incurred by the few paternal perpetrators.”

“Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)…has been used in countless cases by abusive fathers to gain custody of their children.”

“PAS continues to be used in family courts as a defense for why a child is rejecting the father.”

PAS “has been thoroughly debunked by the American Psychological Association.”

No compilation of cases suggests either that fathers invoking PAS are “abusive” or that such a defense is especially effective in court. Yet whatever we call it, children are systematically taught to hate their parents (most often, though not exclusively, fathers) and used as informers against them with the backing of the courts. The systematic, government-backed turning of children against their parents is another practice familiar from the bureaucratic dictatorships of the last century. If “Breaking the Silence” had tried to do an honest investigation of PAS, it would have informed viewers that:
 

The Association of Women Psychiatrists (a professional group unaffiliated with the APA) takes PAS seriously enough that their Fall 2003 newsletter printed an article asserting “The Denial and/or Discrediting of the Parental Alienation Syndrome Harms Women.”

A longitudinal study by Stanley S. Clawar and Brynne Valerie Rivlin, published by the American Bar Association in 2003, followed 700 “high conflict” divorce case over a 12-year period and found that elements of PAS were present in the vast majority of the cases studied.

Rhea Farberman, Executive Director of Public and Member Communications of the APA says, “The American Psychological Association does not have an official position on parental alienation syndrome (PAS) — pro or con. The Connecticut Public Television press release (Breaking the Silence) is incorrect.”

 Inflammatory language also characterizes your promotional literature:

“One of the most effective ways an abusive father can inflict pain and declare his domination is to take custody of his children away from their mother.”

“To win custody of the kids over and against the mother’s will is the ultimate victory…short of killing the kids.”

In divorce cases involving children, it is the mother who files for divorce in 67-91% of cases. So in effect it is mothers who are inflicting pain and declaring “domination” by taking custody away from fathers. As for “killing the kids,” as noted above, most child murders are committed by mothers. Sensational cases such as Susan Smith and Andrea Yates reflect, unfortunately, a statistical reality.

The show also contains internal inconsistencies and sleights-of-hand. An attorney claims, again without evidence, that many cases of abuse by fathers go unreported. This amounts to a presumption of guilt. This attorney has no way of knowing that these citizens are guilty of crimes in the absence of a jury trial, without which, under our constitutional system, they must be presumed innocent.

No dissenting opinion is heard anywhere in the film. Your producers contacted ACFC, SAFE-NH, and others to create a fair and balanced account. But at some point a decision seems to have been made not to produce a fair and balanced account.

We also question the aim of airing this broadcast now. Only two years ago, PBS presented a similar 7-hour blitz entitled “Domestic Violence.” That work also distorted the truth, attacked the innocent with no right of reply, and made no attempt to understand the background, but it was not nearly as poisonous as this one. Such saturation coverage indicates that PBS is aiming not to understand a social problem but to use sensational propaganda to push a political agenda.

Political propaganda, let alone hate-mongering, has no place in taxpayer-funded media. The United States Information Agency and other broadcast outlets are precluded by law from disseminating propaganda within the United States. And the charter of PBS prohibits it. At a time when PBS is already accused of political bias, this production leads more Americans to question the propriety of government-funded mass media.

At this point we believe that simple inaction will not suffice. Either the accusations in this film are true or they are not. If large numbers of proven criminals are physically assaulting women and molesting children why are these men not being arrested, tried before a jury, convicted, and sentenced to prison terms? On the other hand, if evidence does not exist to arrest and convict these men, why are wild and unsubstantiated accusations being leveled against them in the mass media? And why is there less concern that proven criminals are at large than that they are retaining custody of their own children? The obsession with child custody in “Breaking the Silence” is an open admission that the hysteria over domestic “violence” is being fanned not to apprehend criminals but to further disadvantage fathers in custody cases.

In light of these questions, we appeal to PBS to seriously reconsider whether it is appropriate to continue to air this one-sided film without proper balance or opposing viewpoints.

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But we want to do more than protest the distortions of this film. Equally grave is that PBS has missed a valuable opportunity to investigate and understand a larger and very real social ill. It appears we can agree that serious abuses are indeed taking place in family courts throughout America, resulting in a massive social disaster. If PBS could discard its ideological blinders, reflected in the insistence that only mothers are victims of courts that routinely seize children from both mothers and fathers, PBS could be conducting a valuable public service. We can provide you with documentary evidence of systematic and serious violations of the most fundamental constitutional provisions and rights, including almost every article of the Bill of Rights, against both fathers and mothers. In particular:
 

The right of parents to supervise the religious, moral, and civil upbringing of their children routinely is abrogated without cause.

Children are routinely separated from parents against whom no charges of wrongdoing are made.

Parents are incarcerated without trial, counsel, or formal charge.

Knowingly false allegations against parents, for which evidence is not presented, are treated as fact, overturning the presumption of innocence, and not punished when demonstrated to be untrue.

Government agents enter the homes, seize the property, and examine the private papers and effects of parents who are suspected of no wrongdoing.

Bureaucratic police are authorized to issue subpoenas and arrest warrants against parents, contrary to due process of law.

Parents are ordered by government officials to separate from and divorce their spouses, on pain of losing their children.

Parents are forced to pay the fees of court officials and private practitioners they have not hired and whose services they have not sought or used, on pain of incarceration.

Parents suspected of no wrongdoing are burdened with punitive and impossible expropriations of their property and income, sometimes at gunpoint, and intentionally reduced to penury.

A campaign of vilification against private American citizens is being sponsored in the mass media by their own government, and our nation’s highest political leaders use their offices as platforms to verbally attack private American citizens, who have no right of reply or opportunity to defend themselves.

Increased measures of police and government surveillance over private citizens under the guise of collecting child support.

Children are forcibly removed from the protection of responsible and loving parents and placed in environments where they are in greatly increased danger of physical and sexual abuse.

Children are used as informers against their parents.

Children are instructed with animus against their parents with the backing and even the active participation of government officials.

The creation of forced labor facilities specifically for parents.

Children are used as leverage and as weapons to silence parents who speak out publicly against these abuses.

Official court records, including hearing tapes and transcripts, are doctored and falsified with the knowledge of court officials, and evidence is fabricated against the innocent.

Reports of parents who have been jailed without trial being beaten, in at least one case fatally, and denied medical attention and medication while in police custody.

Reports of these practices have appeared in reputable national and international publications, including peer-reviewed scholarly journals. Among them: the Washington Times, Washington Post, Boston Globe, Orlando Sentinel, Catholic World Report, Crisis, Insight, Liberty, Women’s Quarterly, World Net Daily, Family Policy, American Spectator, The American Enterprise, Human Events, Salisbury Review, Journal of Law and Family Studies ,Political Science and Politics, Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health , Independent Review, Society, and others.

Were PBS to investigate these practices, you would understand why the misinformation in “Breaking the Silence” contributes to, rather than challenges, the abuse of government power. Americans look to the media to be watchdogs of the government, but PBS has allowed itself to become a lapdog.

We are prepared to work with PBS to develop a thorough and balanced investigation of improper, illegal, and unconstitutional practices in America’s family courts and social service agencies. We can supply documentary evidence and direct you to individuals with personal experience of these courts.

We challenge PBS to observe the ethics of its charter and the standards than once made American journalism, including PBS, among the best in the world.

We look forward to your response.

Sincerely yours,

Stephen Baskerville, PhD
President, American Coalition for Fathers and Children

Mark Rosenthal, Policy Analyst
R.A.D.A.R. (Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting)

Reena Sommer, PhD
Divorce & Custody Consultant

Glenn Sacks
Newspaper Columnist

Warren Farrell, PhD
Author, “Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say”

Jack Kammer
Author, “Good Will Toward Men”

Susan Wolpin
Father & Child Equality, Inc.

Gordon E. Finley, PhD
Professor of Psychology, Florida International University

Marc Angelucci, President
National Coalition of Free Men, Los Angeles

Stephen D. Finstein, LCSW, LMFT, LSOTP
Board Chairman, Fathers For Equal Rights, Inc.
National Fathers’ Resource Center

Steve Cloer, President
Fathers Are Parents Too

James Hays, President
Coalition of Fathers and Families New York, Inc.

Daniel Lee, President
Child’s Best Interest

Jim Semerad, Chairman
Dads and Moms of Michigan

Dr. Michael Ross
Family Rights Coalition

Dr. Charles E. Corry, President
Equal Justice Foundation, Inc.

John Kral, President
Alabama Coalition for Fathers and Children

Jim Loose, Chairman
Parents for Equal Parenting

Thomas Golden
Licensed Clinical Social Worker

David Buchanan
Author, “Gendercide and Human Rights”

cc:

Kenneth Y. Tomlinson, Chairman of the Board
Corporation for Public Broadcasting

Representative Fred Upton, Chair
Subcommittee on Telecommunications and the Internet, US House of Representatives

References

Custody by Gender

Joan Kelly, “The Determination of Child Custody in the USA,” Future of Children, vol. 4, no. 1 (Spring/Summer 1994).

Geoffrey P. Miller, “Being There: The Importance of the Present Father in the Design of Child Support Obligations,” New York University School of Law, Public Law and Legal Theory Research Paper Series

Working Paper No. 22, July, 2000, p. 11, n. 17.

William Dolan, “Empirical Study of Child Custody in Divorce Decrees in Arlington Country, Virginia, 7/1/89 – 12/31/90,” in Robert Seidenberg, The Father’s Emergency Guide to Divorce-Custody Battle (Takoma Park, Maryland: JES, 1997), chap. 1.

Leighton E. Stamps, “Maternal Preference in Child Custody Decisions” Journal of Divorce and Remarriage, vol. 37, nos. 1-2 (2002), pp. 1-11.

Sanford L. Braver, Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths (New York: Tarcher/Putnam, 1998), chap. 5.

Domestic Violence by Gender

Martin S. Fiebert, “References Examining Assaults by Women on Their Spouses or Male Partners: An Annotated Bibliography,” paper presented at the American Psychological Society Convention in Washington, D.C., 24 May 1997; published in Sexuality and Culture 1 (1997), pp. 273-286 and vol. 8, nos. 3-4 (2004), pp. 140-177.

John Archer, “Sex Differences in Aggression Between Heterosexual Partners: A Meta-Analytic Review,” Psychological Bulletin, vol. 26, no. 5 (September 2000), pp. 651-680; Murray A. Straus, “The Controversy over Domestic Violence by Women: A Methodological, Theoretical, and Sociology of Science Analysis, in X. B. Arriaga, and S. Oskamp, Violence in Intimate Relationships (Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage, forthcoming).

Nancy Updike, “Hitting the Wall: After 20 Years of Domestic Violence Research, Scientists Can’t Avoid Hard Facts,” Mother Jones, May/June 1999.

Betty Friedan, It Changed My Life: Writings on the Women’s Movement (Cambridge, Mass.: Harvard, 1998), p. 126.

Philip W. Cook, Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence (Westport, Connecticut: Praeger, 1997).

Child Abuse by Gender

Child Maltreatment 1996: Reports from the States to the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System (Washington, DC: US Government Printing Office, 1998), pp. xi-xii.

The Third National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect (Washington, DC: Department of Health and Human Services, September 1996).

Patrick Fagan and Dorothy Hanks, The Child Abuse Crisis: The Disintegration of Marriage, Family, and the American Community (Washington, DC: Heritage Foundation “Backgrounder,” 3 June 1997), p. 16.

Robert Whelan, Broken Homes and Battered Children: A Study of the Relationship between Child Abuse and Family Type (London: Family Education Trust, 1993), p. 29.

David L. Rowland, Laurie S. Zabin, and Mark Emerson, “Household Risk and Child Sexual Abuse in a Low Income, Urban Sample of Women,” Adolescent and Family Health, vol. 1, no. 1 (Winter 2000), pp. 29-39.

Parental Alienation
News for Women in Psychiatry , vol. 21, no. 4 (Fall 2003).